5 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

A little high, a little low; isn’t that how life’s roller coaster roves? So are relationships! The girl you couldn’t do without is no more a part of your life now, but you can’t erase her off your mind no matter how hard you try. Is that how you feel right now? Don’t know what to do or how to approach her? Let’s see how we can help. 

That phase when your beau walks out of your life can be shattering. Whatever be the reason for your breakup, if you still think she’s the one and you can let her go so easily for the unfortunate situation that led to the split, it’s time to act.

Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back:

Want to save your ex from another guy who you think is just taking her for a ride? Well, thinking of her wellbeing means you still care, you still love her. Why miss the opportunity to woo her back once again?

Not sure about how she feels about you now? At least you are sure that it’s only her! Things could have turned sour between the two of you leading to a split at the heat of the moment, but that doesn’t mean it’s all over. Don’t give up if this relationship matters and deep down you know that she loves you back.

1. Respect her space

That pause button in your relationship could be the best thing that happened to both of you. Surprised? Well, you can’t love someone if you don’t respect them and this gap of time could be the best tester and healer. Forcing things too soon can make them worse than you can imagine. Give your ex-girl that space. Saying this doesn’t indicate that she left because you choked her but a breather can work like magic.

Some interim space means that she also gets the opportunity to miss you, think of you, and evaluate your value in her life. 

2. Assess your situation 

Reviving a relationship that you want to last for long is not just about harping “I want her back” or “I need her”, it’s more about analyzing the reasons behind the breakup. As you contemplate, there’ll be clarity on why you see a future with her. Is it just your ego that doesn’t want to accept that she dumped you or is it your love for her and companionship that you can’t let go! 

3. Keep patience

To react when distressed is the most common mistake people make. If you try to rush things in your quest to solve, you could land up losing your lover for life. The key is to wait! Allow your ex to initiate contact first. Don’t chase her! With all that time she has in her hands to weight things out, chances are she will come back. Patience and right timing is very crucial especially for anyone who would like to initiate the first move.

4. It isn’t a competition

Often breakups leave bereaved partners to tune into a competitive mode. For instance, who can start living normal life faster or who can hook up sooner than the other, etc.? It’s significant to have a mature approach instead of challenging yourself.

Both of you may not be on the same line mentally and emotionally when the split happened and could require different healing times. If you want reconciliation, you have to allow each other that time and space for growing mutually. 

If she’s the one to contact you first, she’s likely missing you and experiencing the fear of losing you. Well, you can secretly do the boogie-woogie as that’s a good sign for your relationship. If she calls you, remember, she is also going through mixed emotions and it must have been difficult to muster the courage to have called you. She is hopeful and wants you to lend an understanding ear. 

So, if she’s there to meet you or has called you, the thumb rule would be to act happy instead of making a grumpy face ready to shoot a quiver of complaints. You can keep the conversation short; allow her to lead the conversation and end the conversation in a neutral tone. Sounding angry, depressed, or intimidating, begging her for a chance to reconsider the relationship right away would only cause disruption. 

5. Work on yourself                 

Breakups are heartbreaking but if your love is true it won’t fly out of the window too soon. Remember, “You say it best when you say nothing at all”! And instead of draining all your energy on day-dreaming how to get her back, work towards attracting her to you once again.

You don’t have to change your real self, but improving oneself goes a long way in building the foundation of any relationship for that matter. It will also help you cope better with the emotional upheavals you have been facing within. It is very important that you know how to love oneself after a breakup. 

Hit the gym, learn a new skill, and engage yourself in hobbies that you missed doing. Your ex-girlfriend will spot your efforts around positively reconstructing your life and this could attract her towards you once again.

Communication is the key to any relationship but it need not be verbal always. Wait till she initiates contact with you. This might reach out to you via text, call, or simply leave cues. 

Once she’s got in touch with you, take a step ahead and say what you need to have her back into your life. How you speak, what you say would matter the most.

You can emphasize the positives such as how you had been trying redefine yourself. Also, if you are dating someone, tell her. If you value her, she deserves to know. 

6. Relive the first date 

Once both of you have arrived at a comfortable zone, don’t forget to ask her out. Why not make it like the first time you dated each other? Good memories from the past can work as a stepping stone and help you revive your life with a stronger foundation. A second chance of your relationship is a good way to starting anew.

Fixing things is always difficult than breaking them. Give your relationship and your partner that space and respect. Giving your wrecked relationship a facelift without shattering it further cannot be achieved overnight. From rebuilding trust to keep the ego aside, this journey could be more demanding but if handled well it can establish a deeper bond.