10 Magical Tips on How to be More Confident

Confidence? How do you define confidence? or how can one say that you are a confident girl? Confidence is essential to stand above the crowd. Google defines it as “the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something,” but the practical meaning of confidence is much more than it.

Many women prepare well for the job interview but don’t get it because they couldn’t represent their knowledge and personality well. Many girls get nervous during college competitions and eventually lose due to lack of confidence in themselves.

What causes a lack of confidence?

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Lack of confidence is directly related to low self-esteem in a person. Most people start to feel a little less loved, incompetent to do everything, or feel awkward. There are different reasons why people lack self-confidence.

1. Different life experiences

There is plenty of life experience one can have which can lead to lowering self-confidence. These are individual experiences one goes through which are as follows.

• A severe trauma– A trauma can be categorized as physical, sexual, or mental. There can also be a certain kind of emotional abuse that can lead to severe trauma to a person which ultimately results in a lack of self-confidence to anything in life. There are times when a person can feel replaying the memories that have physical or emotional abuse in it. It is such experience that makes it difficult for a person to move on and lead a free life. 
• How one has been parented- Well this is a very important part of self-confidence journey. The parenting style that one goes through will determine how confident is the person in life. If some experiences in parenting represent control over one’s emotions and actions, then it can lead to a lack of confidence in a person.
• Bullying while growing up– Schools and colleges can sometimes be a harsh place to be if there are bullies all around. Bullying is one of the worst experiences one can go through while one is growing up. That’s why bullying since childhood can directly be responsible for the lack of confidence. You would have to learn how to stand up for yourself.
• Sexual, physical, or mental harassment– Harassment in today’s can be constituted in so many ways. Mental, sexual, or physical harassment can be very stressful and can change your life completely. Humiliation in childhood or sexual harassment anywhere like the workplace can lead to mental disturbance and in return.

2. Quest for perfectionism

Always expecting for perfectionism is another way of bringing yourself down. It is actually faulty thinking which in turn lowers your self-confidence. The day you fail at attaining the unrealistic perfectionism goal, you will see a lack of confidence the next time.

3. Genetic reasons

Our genes have a role to play in shaping self-confidence. There are many genetic factors that are responsible so one must not blame self. Some aspects of behavioral changes also lead to changes in confidence.

As a woman, it’s an inbuilt feature that we worry more about our looks, knowledge, personality, and abilities. Most of the women always doubt their individual personalities which decreases their self-confidence. Confidence is more about who are you rather than what you want to be! Here, Womenlite wants every woman to feel confident about themselves and thus we present you:

How to be more confident?

Being confident is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. It is a quality that will stay with you for years and help you in every phase of your life.

Easy tips to increase confidence level

1. Dress up well

You don’t have to dress up to impress anyone. Dress up well means that you have to dress up the way you want to get addressed. No matter what the event is, you must dress up in a way that whenever you look at yourself in the mirror, you always gain some amount of confidence. It’s not for anyone else, not your classmates, your colleagues, your boss, your friends, or even your boyfriend. It’s for you!!

2. Be your own critic

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It is important that you assess yourself along with the decisions you have made. Self-critic is important to help you grow and remove the lack of confidence in you. Once you start critiquing yourself, others’ opinions will not make a difference in your confidence.

3. Indulge in self-care

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Self-care and keeping yourself first is also very important. Don’t wait for someone else to do it or be dependent on anyone else. Take care of yourself so that in touch situations you are your own strength. This will also build self-confidence in you.

4. Self-Affirmations are necessary

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Giving yourself an affirmation when required is a big task and also necessary. To be more confident, you need to learn to be appreciative of yourself. It is also one way to show support to yourself.

5. Get ready to face rejections

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Not everything you want will go as you wish. It is important that you prepare yourself mentally to face rejection too. The day you learn to get over your rejection, is the day you become more confident.

6. Help others

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So if you think you are capable of helping people in their tough times or helping them move forward in life, that is when you also build confidence. To be more confident, do something that keeps you on your toes and put in responsibility in you. By helping others, you will learn that you capable of solving someone’s problem.

7. Don’t try to please

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Never try to be someone what you’re not. Fakeness is not welcome and you’ll end up messing things. You don’t have to please everyone, you can’t, no one can! Sticking to yourself and being proud of it, is the first step towards a confident life.

For instance, if you don’t like to put on makeup but your other classmates do, don’t try to become one of them in order to be with them. It’s all about choices of living life in a certain way.

8. Don’t doubt on your appearance

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Most of the women are never satisfied on how they look and want to change or modify their looks in the desire to look prettier than the rest. Well, it’s the high time to realize and believe that everyone is beautiful in their way. Obviously, being fit is good and maintaining a good physique also benefit you internally but you don’t have to constantly criticize yourself for being chubby.

9. Stop being anxious

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It is found that women are more anxious than men and anxiety can never let you build your confidence. Anxiety about anything leads to disturbance in mental well-being. Confidence is more related mentally! Situations happen and you can’t control your tension because it doesn’t contribute anything good to the situation. So, how not to feel anxious? Just trust yourself that you can deal with the situation and your one thought can uplift your confidence and courage. So, here is something to encourage you-

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10. Be you

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The simplest thing to increase your level of confidence is just ‘BE YOU.’ You have been learning so many things since your birth and no one is exactly similar to each other. You may have your own ideology and mindset which may not fit in the norms of the society but that doesn’t isolate you from it.

You can happily stay within the society by creating your own individuality. Remember your different takes on fashion, love, career, marriage, etc, separates you from the stereotypes!

Best books on confidence:

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Reading books is definitely one of the most fulfilling habits you can put. There are plenty of books on self-confidence and confidence building that one can read and gain lots of knowledge.

Some of the best selling books are-

1. Think and grow rich by Nepoleon hill

It is a very enriching books that lets you think about how one can accomplish things or dreams which they are passionate about. It also tells you that one must have a burning desire to accomplish things and only then in reality you will have the courage to do so. Also, It gives you knowledge of being unstoppable in this journey of achieving a target.

2. Awaken the Gaint Within by Tony Robbins

This books is purely for those people who are looking out on ways to build self-confidence. It helps you learn how to take control of your own life and how to change the reality. It’s take on how to virtually start improving all the areas of your life is very beautifully written. This is a books that gives you a direction and a path to follow than to give you direct solutions.

3. The Magic Of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

If you are reading anything for the first time about self-confidence, then this is a book well written in simple and easy to understand language. It writes the importance of self-confidence along with the power self-belief in life.

So, a simple short and sweet message is that being confident is just about believing yourself and your capabilities.

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